Synopsis: HEALING = LOVE OF ONESELF
My guess is that we all know someone near and dear to our hearts who is suffering from a serious illness. Or you, yourself, may be in that condition. Psychologically it’s an unnerving place to be, teetering between uncertainty and hope about the outcome.
When life comes at us this way, like a train wreck, it causes us to look within and without to the cosmos for reasons. Most of us are wired to seek answers, to seek knowledge, to better the planet, to better ourselves. To heal.
Author Anita Moorjani, who battled cancer for years right into the hands of an NDE (Near Death Experience), wrote in her book, Dying To Be Me, “To cherish myself, was the key to my healing. To be me is to be love. This is the lesson that saved my life”.
Can it really be that simple? Maybe we can learn from the lessons she took from her NDE. Let’s take a look. It can’t hurt.
Some people bristle at the notion of loving oneself. It can bring up feelings of guilt and unworthiness or thoughts of ego inflation.
Self-love is not selfish. Love is who we are. Selfish is an earthly human judgment and often stems from a deeply felt insecurity. Insecurity is fear. Fear is limiting. Being Love is expansive. It dissipates fear and rises above the duality of judgment between right and wrong. It just is.
Our childhoods were filled with lessons of right and wrong, as our parents or caregivers–sans playbook on perfect parenting–did their best to instill in us societal do’s and don’ts.
Our essence of Being love slowly got whittled down into conformity to social norms. “Be this way so you don’t embarrass us.”
It can take a lifetime to unlearn some of the teachings of well-meaning parents who loved us or who, we perceive, didn’t love us enough.
And it can take years to develop a disease, which, I believe, is an indicator that we haven’t yet cleared the path back to Love of Self.
How do we get there? Am I even on the path or have I wandered into the brambles?
No matter. Wherever you are, start there. Your actions of self-love will lead you back. Try courting yourself like you’ve just fallen in Love.
- Splurge on 5 bucks for a bouquet of fresh flowers, from you to you.
- Draw a bubble bath, candlelit for ambiance, music for relaxation and inspiration.
- Watch your favorite movie in your pjs.
- Give yourself a hug, a foot and shoulder massage, a pat on the back.
- Take a 5 min. respite, away from the needs of others, in the bathroom where solitude and privacy is “acceptable.”
- Make decisions based on your needs first and stick to them despite feelings of guilt. Guilt is self-judgment, not self-love.
- Make a list of things you love to look at, to do, to feel, to hear. Then seek those out.
- Show yourself unconditional love, as you would a friend or a loved one.
- Say, “I love you” in the mirror. This can be very powerful. Feel it, truly feel it as you say it.
You don’t have to be perfect. Perfection is a judgment which is unattainable! Allow yourself the beauty of imperfection. Love yourself unconditionally.
You’re already on The Road to Remission.